A bride and groom have sparked fury among their guests for “spoiling the fun” after they decided not to provide an open bar at their upcoming wedding.
The bride-to-be explained how she and her husband-to-be decided to give their guests a heads up by outlining certain things in their wedding invitation.
“I come from an alcoholic heavy family and simply don’t feel comfortable being around people who are drinking heavily,” she said in a Reddit thread.
The couple decided to have a “drink ticket” service for the reception instead.
“We’ve been able to customise how we want alcoholic beverages being handled at our reception and the venue says this kind of service happens all the time there,” she said.
“It was their suggestion in fact, so I didn’t think it would be this big of a deal.”
The couple sent out a card along with their wedding invitations detailing the “expectations” about the drink options.
“The drink service bit of the card said, essentially, that alcoholic drinks were limited to two per of-age guest, the ‘tickets’ are non-transferable, and like the other beverages offered would need to be ordered from your seat at your assigned table. Drinks were also to be enjoyed at your assigned table,” the bride explained.
“I didn’t want to shock people when they arrived so I figured the cards would be a nice, classy heads up for our guests.”
The bride said her uncle labelled her an a****** for trying to “spoil the fun” at the wedding reception.
“Now my head is swirling as I try to figure out what to do. So, am I the a****** because I’ve set my reception up like this and am not offering an open bar instead?” She asked.
Her post has been met with more than 1600 comments — with many divided over the couple’s dilemma.
Many didn’t have an issue with the couple for not having an open bar — but they had a problem with the detail about telling guests they can “only drink in their assigned seats”.
“You’re the a******. Your ticket plan went from moderately novel to aggressively controlling the more you explained it. Are you going to have security tackle ‘Aunt Joan’ if she gets too out of hand?” said one.
Another suggested: “Just have a dry wedding if you’re so uncomfortable around alcohol or if your family is that untrustworthy around it.”
One pointed out: “The issue isn’t the no open bar. It’s not even the ticket concept (my son and his wife chose to have a dry wedding and it was no big deal). The issue IS you playing police about how and where they drink, additionally stating that the tickets are ‘non transferrable’ — that’s ridiculous. If 90-year-old Aunt Betty doesn’t want to have ANY alcohol and is happy to give her tickets to Uncle Joe, then why not?”
Another added: “Not letting people walk around and socialise with their drinks is a bit much. If you are this uncomfortable with alcohol, you should probably go with a dry wedding,” added another.
While one joked: “Weird wedding, better control the food intake too.”
